*Sounds of the world burning* Me: Ha! Funny post! (This is about Social Media)

Well you can't erase that, now can you?

Welcome to social media! The one thing "keeping" us teens from "realizing our full potential". It's the thing that "makes our generation so violent" and it "causes mental health issues". Okay Brenda, go off. In truth, social media is and does a lot of things. It can help a person who has trouble making friends in real life make friends in other parts of the world. It delivers news in real time. It is a job that a lot of people can make money from. It serves as a place of learning, inspiration and connection. It can help people who are struggling to reach out and get help. It can help people discuss interests and viewpoints with other likeminded individuals. It is also home to child predators, traffickers, racists, bullies, and general grade A a**holes. (Mom told me not to swear, I think censoring should do the trick.) The older generations (Read: Baby Boomers and Gen. X) are all up in our faces (Or our timelines) about how much better their childhoods were and how social media is the cause of all our problems. First of all: we as a generation acknowledge the problems that social media causes, and we acknowledge our part in it. However, we also know that social media helps with issues that often are not always addressed in the real world. Second of all: they can't blame us for problems that their generations had a significant part in creating. All those social networks that they are so worried about? Gen. X's and Baby Boomers created them. Sure, some are made by millennials, but most are made by the older generations. I... had a point here, hold on, let me find it. A-ha! Social media has a lot of positive impacts/traits and negative impacts/traits. Let's go over some of those, shall we?

Part One:

Positive Number 1: It is a way for teens to entertain themselves and others, as well as a form of self expression.

Take the newish app that's all the rage with my generation (Gen. Z if you couldn't tell), TikTok. Thats right folks! The new and improved 'musical.ly' with Vine mixed in! Remember Vine? No? I don't either. TikTok made itself known for its numerous videos of teens doing weird dances to weird songs. Or, as everyone else calls it "The Straight side of TikTok". It is known for new challenges, dances, cool makeup and makeup effects, and the Thirst Traps. Yes, the capitals are necessary. Other staples of TikTok include skits, mini vlogs, politics, cosplay, and other random stuff that people find cool and funny. A lot of it being the whole 'burst through your bathroom door, look dramatically in the mirror, and say something'. Most of these videos are kids my age (Read: High school age) or the elders of my generation/the youngsters of the millennials just doing things to make others laugh, or showcase something they really enjoy or have a talent in. 

Negative Number 1: It can cause unrealistic expectations of what a teen should look like.

We all know those pictures, the ones were a teen around 14-17 who looks like they could be the cover of a Vogue magazine? Or those targeted ads about how to be pretty, or lose weight with the captions, 'Now you can do it too!' Now, what a surprise that it can do more harm than help. When teens who already have issues with their body-image and/or self-esteem see these types of things it can reinforce the idea "I need to be pretty" or "I need to be skinny" when they don't! Little tidbit of positivity: I will love you no matter what you look like, because it does not and should not matter. Okay, back to the depressing stuff. This toxic mindset of " I need to look like them to be valued" is extremely dangerous and can be a leading factor in a lot of mental health issues, especially depression, anxiety, and eating disorders.

To learn about more positives and negatives of social media, visit these articles: how-does-social-media-affect-teenagers and positive-and-negative-influences-of-media-on-teenagers_00107975

Part Two:

Now personally, I don't use social media as much as one would think. Sure, I watch YouTube and have an Instagram account, but I hardly interact with other users. So my views might be a bit different than other teens my age. I personally like the social media I'm on. I can view a wider range of content that I find interesting and relevant. I don't like all the pressure it puts on people to post though. Let me and my lurker tendencies be! Because I'm not as involved, I am often times not aware of big going-ons in this digital world. (Gods, just saying that made me feel even more removed from society than I am.) And it doesn't really effect my in-person life in a big way. I do talk about things I've read, seen and watched a lot, but that's because they are all about things I find interesting or topics I feel strongly about. My Mom calls me addicted, but I don't experience withdrawal symptoms when I get my phone/laptop taken away, so I don't think its a real addiction. And also, if it is a real addiction, in this day and age? I think I can afford it. I can't go outside anyway, might as well watch funny videos, am I right? Besides, what else am I supposed to do? I can read yes, and I do! The problem is that if I want new books, I need to buy them or visit a library. See the issue? I can't go out with friends, not that I do anyway but at least the option was there before. There is nothing to do but be on the internet. At the very least watching TV. Also, my mom can't say anything. She is on her phone and laptop, and when she isn't, she's watching TV, and when she's not doing that, she is napping. Again, I had a point here, hold on. Wait, did I have a point with this? I can't tell anymore.

Part Three:

As a child, which I still am, but as a younger child, I had a lesson (Class? Something.) on internet safety. They didn't say why, but I knew. News flash! Bad people exist! As a smaller child, I had very limited access to the internet, but I also understood the dangers better than most of my peers. We were taught not to share personal information like our full names, addresses, or our age. No pictures, either. The whole time, I sat there thinking, 'Well duh. You wouldn't tell a total stranger this information, so why would you put it on the internet, where so many more people have access to it?' As you can see, I was very cautious and logical about the whole thing. But I look on social media, mostly peoples profiles, and I see this exact information. And, you do you, I guess, but they should still be careful. There are so many horror stories about people not being careful and bad things happen. Just type the words 'teen social media horror stories' into any search bar and thousands of articles will pop up. Once you get past the 'I accidentally posted to the wrong wall' or the 'sent this to the wrong person' stories, there are a lot of stories about how sharing information can go horribly wrong. There are some really good articles I found about how to stay safe and about the real-life consequences of not being as safe as you could be. You can read them here: real-life-consequences-social-media, sharing-inappropriate-photos-or-information-online and social-media-smarts.html

Part Four:

As part of the whole 'real-life consequences for things you do online', a lot of companies and jobs that pay well do background checks on everything in your life, including what you post on social media. So watch out! Those old tweets from 2008 when you were way close-minded? Yeah, they're going to be dug up. A good rule of thumb is if you wouldn't say it to someones face, don't post it and if you wouldn't show this picture to your parents/guardians, don't post it. For those of you wondering about the process of background checks, surprisingly the police are very open about how they go about the background checks they do before hiring someone. They check with any and all family members and friends that you are who you say you are and to get more information on you. They check your criminal record and any minor infractions can put you at a slight disadvantage. They check school and job records. And of course, they check your social media. Use these articles as a template for what to expect when a possible job says that they'll do a background check on you: need-know-police-background-check-common-disqualifiers and social-media-background-checks-law-enforcement-industry

Anyway, social media is a neutral entity. It's not inherently evil or good. It just is. It is what we as a community use it for that determines if it is good or bad. The original purpose of social media was to bring people together, and it does just that. Remember! Be safe, be kind, and don't blame societies problems on teenagers who are just trying to survive high school and college. Now, if you'll excuse me, I must go have an existential crisis in my shower. See ya!

-Rigel M.